Not worth reading but need to erupt briefly…!

I HATE this so MUCH! Broke down in tears as signed the childminders forms today (I mean yesterday but since I haven’t been able to sleep it feels like this morning!) and am bitterly contemplating life as an absentee mummy! I wouldn’t sign my wedding rings over to a stranger and now I have had to sign my children over to one! Don’t get me wrong she is fab and she was so comforting when I had my blub but I don’t want to do this and I honestly don’t know that I can! This feels so far beyond simply not wanting to or disliking the idea… I feel like my heart is being ripped apart and my lungs are being squeezed empty of air – my head is back to spinning at the first sign of anxiety and I am laying in bed, tears literally running down my face as if someone’s squeezing a warm wet flannel over it and trying to keep the shuddering sobs to a minimum so as not to wake Poppy as she sleeps beside me, totally and blissfully unaware of my despair. How can I leave my babies at the door and wave goodbye and smile knowing that the next few hours are going to be filled with outpourings of grief from me and fearful non-understanding wails from Poppy even IF Izzy is totally fine with it. It was different when I went back to work after Izzy coz at least she was with family but this time it hurts even more :(. And for what? My first week I will earn about £50 after childcare! But it is money we will sorely need. I hate money – I am not even a materialistic person – I couldn’t give a toss about shoes and while I would like nice clothes I usually look at the price tag and walk away. I live in my mummy uniform of jeans and whatever top falls out of the wardrobe first and that is me, I am fine with that!
But I’m not fine with it for my girls. They deserve nice things, beautiful clothes. They deserve books to help them learn and food that broadens their senses (as opposed to chips and various chicken products). They deserve everything the world has to offer.
They deserve a mummy who is happy but in order to be happy I would have to give up the ability to give them all the things I want to give them. I can’t pretend to give them things they don’t have, but I can pretend to be happy when I’m not. So that is what I will do. Three days a week I will smile as I wave goodbye. I will work as hard as I can at remembering why and I will keep my head down and just make my way from one long weekend to the next knowing that I am not the only one who has to live that way.
And now, nearly 24hrs since I last slept and with probably only an hour or two before I will be woken up by those two boisterous but flipping gorgeous girls of mine, my brain feels like a full sponge I finally wrung out… a damn sight lighter amd potentially in a much better state to fall asleep.
When you can’t scream… write. If you can’t write… prepare for many such sleepless nights. Wish I had written it all down sooner now! 😦
TTFN xxxx

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3 thoughts on “Not worth reading but need to erupt briefly…!

  1. I totally feel your pain! I have to go back to work in September- for financial reasons. I would be happier to look after my girls full time until pre school but unfortunately our current government seems to want to force mothers back to work as soon as possible. I am currently looking in to costs etc to see if there is any way around it but seems like you can only get support if both parents either work full time or are unemployed! Like you I couldn’t care less about having lots of disposable income but as well as needing extra money to cover the bills I don’t want the girls to go without.
    I have been easing Isla into it by sending her to a brilliant childminder a few hours a week and she loves it but not sure how she , I, will manage with longer. And Cleo just seems to young to leave, plus it means giving up her daytime two breast feeds sooner . I worked with Isla at this age but only left her with family one day a week then did the rest from home. But working from home with two may be little more difficult /impossible!
    I am sure your girls will be fine though and I suspect this will be harder than us than it is on them! xxx good luck xxx

    • And I mist guiltily raise my hand and say I helped gote this government in… well, half of it anyway! I was blinded by the fact they were planning to do the married couples tax relief and mistakenly thought this (so far still yet to materialise) perk meant they placed value on traditional family merits. But had another letter from the tax man this year saying that because they had messed up my tax on my benefit in kind (private medical insurance) last year I was going to have to pay it back. This is the second year running because once again they state they won’t change the tax code they have set despite being fully aware that it is too low! So I pay national insurance for the nhs, as well as paying tax on my pmi (which is in place to save the nhs from bothering in the event of a serious or ongoing problem so they win three times on this one because my employer also pays tax on providing my pmi!). So I am being bled dry on my earnings before I even start thanks to the government. Let’s see, Labour buggered it up, Conservative and Lib Dem combined kept it buggered… who the heck do we vote for next?!
      At least we will keep our children safe and happy without fear of going without even if it breaks our hearts to do it! Xxxx

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